5 Lessons Women MUST Learn about Love Before It’s Too Late

Mitzi Bockmann
7 min readJun 15, 2022

There are a few lessons women must learn about love but ones many of us tend to ignore, at our own peril.

We fall in love and break up and fall in love and break up — over and over — and we never seem to learn the why and how of it all. As a result, we are doomed to repeat history and risk ending up alone!

Love is so complicated. We believe that someday our prince will come and sweep us off our feet and that we will live happily ever after. We think that the relationships we see on TV and in movies are real. We believe that if we just act like Cinderella or Rose Dawson we will find our Prince or our Jack!

Unfortunately, most relationships don’t evolve the way they do on screen. And yet we hold on, believing that, if we just keep doing the things we have always done, our soulmate will appear and we will live happily ever after.

Let me tell you 5 lessons women must learn about love before it’s too late so that you can find the love that you seek.

#1 — Sex does not equal love.

There isn’t a single woman I know who hasn’t, at some point in her life, had sex with a man because she wanted him to love her. And, almost without exception, in spite of what we see in movies — where people fall into bed right away and then fall madly in love — it just doesn’t work.

Men want sex. As much sex as they can possibly get. But for many men sex does not equal love. It might not even equal like. Sex is sex.

For women, sex is different. Sex brings about an emotional connection, THE emotional connection that women crave. As a result, women believe that if she has sex with a man not only will she be giving him what he wants but she will also establish an emotional connection with him and that he will love her.

Does it work that way? Usually no.

I have a client who recently told me that it was time to have sex with a guy because they had been spending a lot of time together and she felt that she owed him. So, she did. And what happened — he moved on!

The best reason to have sex with a guy is because you want to. Beyond that there are no guarantees.

Mitzi Bockmann

I’m a certified NYC based Life and Love Coach who works with people to help them find, and keep, happiness and love.