There are so many articles written about what wives need to stay happy but rarely do we talk about what to do to make your husband feel loved.
It’s not that husbands aren’t important. It’s just that the old adage ‘a happy wife means happy household’ is very important to men. And the adage is accurate so they work hard to do what they need to do to keep their household happy.
And one of the things they do is to ignore their own needs and ask very little of their wives. And doing that over a long period of time can lead to their own unhappiness and resentment and can cause a marriage to really struggle.
So, ladies, it’s time to learn 5 simple phrases that will make your husband feel loved so that you can use them and keep your marriage a happy one.
#1 — Thank you.
When we are raising our kids, us moms are always super busy. And not just with kid stuff. We also get involved with work, fundraisers and other school activities that take a lot of time, time away from our families. And when we are gone, our husbands have to pick up the slack.
I remember in the middle of a fall fair that my friend and I had organized, I ran into her husband and their three kids. The kids were young and hard to manage and he looked exhausted. I asked him if anyone ever said ‘thank you.’ He shook his head.
I think about that moment a lot. I know that saying thank you to our husbands for helping out seems like something that we shouldn’t have to do. After all, no one ever thanks us. AND our husbands often don’t do things the way that we want them to, and that can be extremely frustrating, so it’s hard to appreciate them.
Recognizing the things that your husband does to support you is very important. Why? Because everyone wants to be recognized for the efforts they make, even if those efforts might not be exactly what you want them to be.
So, next time your husband covers for you when you need to be out of the house, thank him. If he does something that you have asked him to do (or even something that you didn’t ask him to do — even if you would rather he had done something else), thank him. If he buys you a birthday present, thank him, even if…