7 Truths About Your Married Man’s Marriage You Don’t Want to Hear

One thing that every single one of my clients who is having an affair with a married man talks about is how their man’s marriage is a disaster; that they don’t understand how he can exist in it, and that it should be a no-brainer to leave. Every one.

And what I tell everyone of them is — “Actually, it’s not that simple.”

Of course, no woman having an affair with a married man wants to hear this. Their man’s miserable marriage is a part of how women rationalize what they are doing.

That being said, it essential that you, the “other woman,” understand truths about your married man’s marriage so that you can move forward with 100% clarity.

#1 — His wife is not a complete raving lunatic, no matter what he says.

I am sure that you have heard over and over what a raging lunatic your married man’s wife is. Or how she is so depressed that she can’t function or that religion has taken over her life or that she is controlling and manipulative. And I am sure that you believe him. After all, why would he lie?

Now I am not saying that your married man is lying, per se, but rather that this description of her is his story and one that he is going to stick to. After all, how else can he justify himself having an affair?

What I can tell you is that every marriage is long and hard but that in every marriage there are two people. Over time, the 1000 little cuts that occur in a marriage can cause a myriad of hurts, hurts that that can wear someone down emotionally. As a result, married people don’t always behave as calmly or respectfully as they might like.

I am guessing that your married man has hurt his wife — as I am sure that she has hurt him. She hasn’t just become a raving lunatic overnight. Of course, she might be unkind or disrespectful, but she isn’t that way in a void. She is this way because she is unhappy. And she is, I promise, very unhappy in her marriage.

#2 — She is married to someone who would cheat on her.

Think about this one very carefully, especially if you are in an affair with a married man who you are hoping will leave his wife for you.