How to Stand up to Someone Who Doesn’t Value You

I know it might seem impossible to do but knowing how to stand up to someone who doesn’t value you is the key to being happy.

So many of us do it — no matter how badly we are treated, we won’t walk away. We want so badly to love and be loved and we never want to give up hope, so we stay. And we suffer.

If you have a clear understanding of the specific things that you need to do to successfully stand up to someone who doesn’t value you, you will have a far better chance of doing so and being happy.

So, how do you stand up for, and get, what you want?

#1 — Don’t justify their behaviors.

I can’t tell you how many of my clients justify their person’s behavior when they are treated badly.

I have a client whose guy was always late. It was so disrespectful. What did she do? She justified it by saying he had to help people at his recovery group. How could she be upset if he was helping others?

Another client said that her boyfriend could never go out after work because he had to be there for his kids — even on days that he didn’t have them. She said that he must have had other things to do with them — every time he used that excuse.