How to Stop Feeling Insecure After Your Spouse Cheated

Are you feeling insecure after your spouse cheated?

Did the person who swore to love you forever betray you by having an affair?

Has your self-esteem been decimated and do you find yourself circling the drain in more ways than one?

Don’t worry! You are not alone. Many people suffer from feeling insecure after their partner cheats.

Fortunately, there are steps that you can take that will help you manage that insecurity and move forward with your head held high.

#1 — Don’t blame yourself.

Are you blaming yourself for your partner cheating? Are you feeling like if you were just nicer, or prettier, or more successful, they wouldn’t have cheated? Do you believe that your perceived deficiencies are why your partner was unfaithful?

I can promise you, here and now — you are not at fault for your partner cheating. There are two people in every relationship and, yes, there are often issues that arise between them but that doesn’t mean that people are given a license to cheat.

In a healthy relationship, issues are addressed and put to bed before they become bigger than life.

That being said, you are in the same troubled relationship with your spouse and you didn’t cheat. You were strong enough to keep your vows even as your relationship foundered.

If anything, you are the one who should hold their head high because you acted with integrity instead of cowardice. They did not.

#2 — Face it head on.

Many people who have been cheated on struggle to face what happened head on.

Sometimes they don’t confront their partners, worried that if they do they will get a confirmation that they really don’t want to hear. Sometimes, once they do receive said confirmation, they don’t address it any further, hoping that if they just ignore it, it will go away. Sometimes, they don’t tell their friends or family because they are so embarrassed and they hold what happened and their emotions inside.