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What to do when Boundaries are Crossed in Marriage
Marriage is long and difficult and when boundaries are crossed in marriage it can be disastrous.
A vital part of marriage is trust and when established boundaries are violated a marriage can breakdown.
So, it’s very important that, when boundaries have been crossed, it is dealt with right away.
How? Let me help.
#1 — Acknowledgement.
When boundaries have been crossed in marriage, it is essential that both parties acknowledge that the boundaries have been crossed. Unless there is agreement that the boundaries have been violated there is no way to begin the healing process.
A client’s husband had violated their ‘no mid-week drinking’ boundary. They had both realized that when they drank wine after work their parenting skills around bedtime suffered. So, they agreed to abstain. When her husband came home one night smelling of beer, she was very upset because they had an agreement and he had broken it.
Her husband pushed back at first, justifying his behavior, but then he acknowledged that he had violated their agreement. With that mutual understanding, their healing could begin.
